Experiencing difficulty in Respecting your man? Please try this...You wont regret!

Pray for him!
 
Our husbands are under constant attack and temptations. Here is a wonderful breakthrough that can help you get started praying specifically for your husband.

Show him respect at home!
 
Respect for your husband at home is not only important but it is also useful because you will earn it back. It is important for husband and wife to respect each other in front of their children. Children feel more secure when their parents are in good terms and display respect to each other even when everything seems to be going south.

Show him respect in public.
 
In public most people would want to be seen expressing or receiving love impressions from their partners. Most people love it when you show the world how important they are in your lives. It is a turn on for your partner. Try it..

Don’t argue with his knowledge. 

Instead of arguing with his knowledge, find a more lovely way of putting your point across. Sometimes you don’t have to show you are better than your partner in any field. It is important to share your ideas in a way that makes them feel important in the subject of dissuasion. There is always a way of showing someone their idea wont work in whatever the topic is without implying that they have no idea.

Say what I mean.
 
Men are fairly direct. They say what they mean and mean what they say. Women on the other hand have a type of internal secret code that can result in us saying one thing and meaning another. Women  want their husbands to be able to read their minds, but it’s an unreal expectation that usually results in disappointment for all involved. It’s really just easier to say what we mean without all the hidden pretense. This will even be easier for your husband to handle you and understand what you want at any given time.

Be respectful to him even in his absence.
 
Talk about your husband in front of your friends of course being careful not to overdo it. Venting about your husband to a group of friends really only causes you to resent him more, and your friends to think less of him as well. Venting about your husband to your children is just out of the question entirely. They need to see you submitting to his guidance for your home even when he’s not present. This will prolong your bond for as long as you can imagine.

Don’t compare him to other men.
 
Comparing your husband to other husbands is a recipe for disaster creating only dissention at home. I think we can tend to take all of the best qualities of other peoples husbands and combine them all into one perfect guy that really just doesn’t exist! This man is your husband, God chose him for you, as a perfect gift from above. You need to treat him as the heavenly gift he is.

Make Yourself available to him.
 
I understand most of you work hard and you can be pretty worn out by the end of the day. Sadly that doesn’t leave much left for your husband when he gets home. Still, you need to make yourself available to him. To talk to him about his day, fill him in on you, and yes, make yourself accessible intimately as well. You don’t want to embarrass anyone out there, but you have to face the facts. In today’s world there are temptations for husbands around every corner, on every billboard, and in every workplace. It’s an important role that shouldn’t be overlooked.

Keep up your appearance.
 
This isn’t too tough for you, you should never be a stay in your sleeping garments all day with no-make up kind of gal. You really do shower each day, put on full make up and get dressed before ever leaving your bedroom. you don’t really have do that for your husband,  it’s because if you don’t “get ready” in the mornings, then you won’t feel good about yourself. Thankfully it serves two purposes! However, even for your kids, I think that dressing nicely is a good value to instill. You don’t want to get dressed up only for special events, but instead you want to get ready for each day. Your kids are a special event, and so is your husband. You don’t want him coming home to a wrecked house and a wrecked wife every day. That wouldn’t be too appealing for you, and neither is it for him for sure. I’m not talking so much about weight here ladies, but more about showing your husband that you care by making an effort with your appearance. I hope you understand what I mean. 

 Encourage him.
 
All day long you encourage your kids. Why would you feel that your husband deserved any less? Telling him that you proud of his work, thankful for the fact that he takes care of the family so well, and that he’s home each night to be with you is important! Just like anyone else your husband need to feel appreciated and valued. Encouraging them in the home, public, and in private are all essential!

UGLY TRUTH: WHY YOU SHOULD NOT WEAR HIGH HEELS

Heels and pain are sides of the same coin. Though women look lovely in heels, they have to suffer from many of its side-effects. Here is the list of bad effects of wearing heels.

Foot pain

Most of the women suffer from foot pain after walking with high heels. Because of high heels the entire pressure of body is concentrated on the feet. If this happens for a longer time it can cause foot and even hip pain.

Difficulty in walking

Many women find it difficult to walk with high heels. Walking long distance with high heels proves to be painful. It often causes heel pain due to walking or standing on high heels for longer time. The way of walking may also look wired. Difficulty in walking may also increase chances of losing balance and falling while walking.

Back pain

Wearing heals causes entire pressure of body fall on the lower back. This pressure falling on the lower back can cause back pain. However proper way of walking, exercise and yoga may help you avoid and get rid of such back pain.

Yellowing and misshapenness

Concentrated body weight on the foot heels may make them harder and develop yellow patches on it. It may also cause misshapenness of your feet. To avoid this you can massage your feet regularly with oil or cream and proper foot care.

Leg Sprain

Major cases of leg sprain in women are caused due to high heels. It may be caused if the person is not used to wearing high heels. Try walking slowly and with extra care while wearing high heels. Try to avoid high heels if you are not using your own vehicle.

Use these high heel sandals very rarely. Wearing heels regularly may cause serious leg and foot injuries in the future. Many of women are infatuated with high heels even if they are painful. It is a mentality of many women that high heels indicate higher status. However status is worthless if old age is full of leg and back pain.

UGLY TRUTH: RISKS OF WEARING AN UNDER SIZE BRA OR "Magic Bra"

Headaches

Believe it or not, an ill-fitting bra can cause some seriously annoying headaches. If your bra is too tight, it causes tension on your shoulders, neck and back and that in turn can cause headaches.

You Can Stretch Your Boobs Out

According to research, a bra that is the wrong size can cause the ligaments to stretch, which can ultimately result in saggy boobs. Make sure your girls are getting enough support!

Back Pain

If your bra is too big, that means that you're not getting enough support. And if you're not getting enough support, your boobs (especially if they're large) are going to start giving you back pain.

Too-Tight Straps

If your bra is too big, you'll probably start tightening the straps so that your boobs get lifted up more. All this does is creating ugly marks in your shoulder that don't need to be there.

Your Boobs Bulge Out

You know when your bra is too tight and your boobs start to bulge out and it looks really terrible and annoying? Yeah. Hate that.

Back Bulge

If your bra is too tight, the back strap is going to be tight, which is going to cause some nice annoying bulge back there. If it's too loose, you're probably going to try to fix that by tightening in the straps. That means your bra strap rides up your back until it's seriously uncomfortable. Either way, you lose.

Indigestion

I know this sounds weird, but it's true - the wrong size bra can cause stomach pain and indigestion. If the bra is too tight, it will dig into your ribs and upper stomach area, causing problems inside your body that you don't even realize.

Bra Gaps

Gaps in between your bra and your boobs mean that your cup size is too big. This is more annoying than anything else and it just looks weird.

Shoulder Pain

Remember how I said your straps being too tight result in red marks? Well, they also result in shoulder pain. It's so uncomfortable and so not worth it.

Rib/Stomach Bulge

Again, a bra that's too tight only results in bulges. If the band is too tight, it's going to dig into your ribs and make your skin bulge out. Not comfortable and not fun.

Below are signs that show you are wearing the wrong size bra….

The band cuts into your skin.

If the band digs into you and creates back-fat bulges or red marks on your torso, it’s too tight and you need to move up a band size.


You can pull the band more than a couple of inches away from your back.

If you can pull the band back that far, it’s too loose and you need to move down a band size.

The bra straps are cutting into your shoulders. 

This is perhaps the most misunderstood sign of an improperly-fitting bra.  The bra band’s responsible for providing 80% of the support for your bust.  The straps should only be doing 20% of the work.  If the straps are digging into you, they’re shouldering too much of the burden.  Your band is likely too large and you need to move down a band size.  Making this change will allow the band to do its fair share of the “heavy lifting.”

 The band doesn’t lie parallel to the ground.

If it’s curved or riding up on your back, it’s too loose.  You need to move down a band size.

 You don’t have two fingers of space between your bra band and your back.

If you can fit more than two fingers between your band and your back, your band’s too loose and you need to move down a band size; if you can’t fit two fingers back there, your band’s too tight and you need to move up a band size.

The band doesn’t rest flatly against your back.

If there’s space between the band and your back when it’s fastened, the band’s too loose and you need to move down a band size.
The bra band’s perhaps the most important, functional component of your bra.  Making sure it’s the right size is critical.  But, keep in mind, if you move up or down in band size you may need to make an opposite move in cup size in order to maintain an overall correct fit.

The under wires rest on your breast tissue.

The cups, including the wires, should completely contain your breasts.  The wires should rest on your rib cage.  If the wires rest on your breast tissue, your cups are too small and you should move up a cup size.


The under wires poke you under your arms.

If you’re being poked in the sides, where the cups meet the wings, your cups are too small and you should move up a cup size.

The under wires lift your rib cage.

If the under wires don’t lie flatly against you, the cups are again too small and you need to move up a cup size.

Your cups are wrinkling.

If you’re wearing non-molded cups, and there seems to be extra fabric at their tops, the cups are too large and you should move down a cup size.

Breast tissue is bulging from the edges of the cups.

If part of your bust appears to be jumping from the top of the cups, or spilling out from the sides of them under your arms, the cups are too small and you need to move up a cup size.  Again, the cups should completely contain all of the breast tissue; wearing cups that are a size too small to enhance cleavage only produces an uncomfortable fit.

The center gore, or the fabric connecting the bra’s two cups, doesn’t rest flatly against your sternum.

If you can put your finger between the fabric and your skin, your cups are too small causing your breasts to exert too much tension on the center gore.  Again, try moving up a cup size.
When evaluating the fit of your bra cups, keep a couple of things in mind.  First, few women have two breasts that are exactly the same size.  When determining the right cup size for you, always judge the fit according to your larger side.  Second, a great way to judge “spillage” out of the cups is to put on a tight T-shirt over your bra.  You’ll be able to see any excess tissue more clearly than by just wearing a bra alone.  If bulges are apparent, you’ll need to move up a cup size.

The straps slide off of your shoulders.

Bra straps shouldn’t slide off of your shoulders.  If this occurs, they’re too loose.  Increase their tension if they’re adjustable.

You don’t have two fingers of space between your bra straps and your shoulders.

If you have adjustable straps, increase their tension if more than two fingers fit underneath them; decrease their tension if two fingers can’t fit underneath them.
Bras that fit correctly are comfortable, improve posture, create a thinner appearance, and bolster confidence and self-esteem by creating an overall better silhouette.  They can be the most important items in any woman’s wardrobe.

UGLY TRUTH: THIS IS HOW LADIES SHOULD BE TREATED...

Never stop courting.

Never stop dating. Never ever take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would own her heart and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. She chose you. Never forget that, and never get lazy in your love.

Protect your own heart.

Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

Fall in love over and over again.

You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. She doesn’t have to stay with you, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

Always see the best in her.

Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.

It’s not your job to change or fix her… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.

Take full accountability for your own emotions

It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she can’t make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.

Never blame your wife if you get frustrated or angry at her

It is only because it is triggering something inside you. They are your emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of you that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.

Allow your woman to just be.

When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to hold her and let her know its ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and not being judgmental she will trust you and open her soul to you… don’t run-away when she’s upset. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.

Fill her soul everyday…

Learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and cherished. Ask her to create a list of things that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.

Be present.

Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully with her. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.

Be willing to take her sexually.

This refers to you carrying her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.

Don’t be an idiot….

You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.

 Give her space…

The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing…. (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, especially after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)

Be vulnerable…

You don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes. 

Be fully transparent.

If you want to have trust you must be willing to share everything… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don't know i she will like what she finds... Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. Drop the mask… If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.

Never stop growing together…

 The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.

Don’t worry about money.

Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.

Forgive immediately.

Learn to forgive immediately and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. Forgiveness is freedom. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.

Always choose love.

This is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.

In the end marriage isn’t about happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come.

Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.

These are lessons I learned the hard way.

If you are reading this, share it to those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love. The woman that told him 'I do', and trusted her life with him, has been waiting for this man to step up.

MEN-Commit to being an Epic Lover. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from you. Be the type of husband your wife can’t help but brag about.