You Catch Him Staring at You
Men always ogle the objects they desire - it's the reason you're always busting us cleavage-peeping.
So consider: With all that eye candy out there, if it's you he's
staring at, his affection runs deep. There's the secret stare (you'll
have to catch him in the act). "Watching my girlfriend at a party allows
me a private moment when I can pinch myself and wonder how I deserve
this amazing person in my life - a perspective I can't get when she's
right there in front of me," says Patrick, 30.
He Gazes in Your Eyes
Another I-love-you look is the steady gaze. Guys are guarded when it
comes to showing emotion. If they lock eyes for a full-tilt, unabashed
stare, they're lowering their shield to let you in. "I'd never hold that
sort of eye contact with anyone else, but an intense gaze with my
girlfriend reflects how comforted and captivated I am by her," says
He Buys Food You Like
Discovering that his kitchen is loaded with biscotti, lemon-lime seltzer, and other feminine enebles
(that would only pass his lips at gunpoint) shows you're lingering on
his mind in the most unexpected, unromantic places - like the produce
aisle on a solo shopping trip. "One day I checked out my shopping cart
and saw all the bags of baby carrots and bottles of diet soda meant for
my girlfriend," says Patrick. "It struck me that it had become second
nature for me to consider what would make her happy, and that's when I
knew I was in love."
He Keeps Your Stuff Out at His Place
He's gone public with your place in his pad. You see, men like to
maintain at least the image of being detached for as long as possible.
So leaving unmistakable evidence in our home that there's a woman
present in our life is a bright red flag that you're The One.
He Talks About the Future
Telling you he plans to relocate out West one day may seem like a neon
warning. However, it might also be his wily way of letting you know that
he wants you in his future. "Every time I tell my girlfriend where I
see 'me' down the road, I'm really trying to gauge whether she sees
herself there with me," says Jon, 26. How do you know when a guy's just
bragging about his game plan and when he's quietly declaring his love?
It's all in the way he talks. If he tells you he wants to move to
Tahiti, be a beach bum, and ogle the local girls, no dice. If he
mentions that he sees himself eventually settling in San Francisco, then
immediately asks if you could ever envision living there, he's emitting
serious long-term relationship rays.
He Wears the Sweater You Gave Him
Trusting you behind the wheel of his wardrobe is something
no man does readily. Not that guys are really all that picky about
their appearance, it's just that we pride ourselves on being, well,
ourselves. "Blame it on the inflated male ego, but to permit any
tampering with our identity, even if it's for the better, is considered a
sign of weakness," explains Seth, 29. Consequentially, every time a guy
does don some item he obviously didn't pick out for himself, he's
showing that he's letting you take control and do a little remodeling
He Stands Right Next to You in Public
Where he stands when you're out together says a lot about where you
stand in his life. Consider this key truth: Guys are hard-wired to check
out women. That's why when a man's still uncertain about his feelings,
he'll either trail several feet behind you or get out in front and lead
the path - two safety positions that keep his wandering eyes hidden.
Sidling up shoulder-to-shoulder is his way of showing his commitment by
keeping his eyes right where you can see them. Plus, sticking close puts
him in range of being touched in public by you, and that limits his
ability to go after a sexy chick he may spy. "Being side-by-side puts my
girlfriend within lips reach
making it easy for her to whisper in my ear or lean in for a surprise
quick kiss," says Ryan, 27. "It's my way of telling other women that I'm
He's Okay With You Answering His Phone
Men never know what potentially image-damaging force might be lurking
on their phone - from ex-girlfriends looking for a last hurrah to an
overly inquisitive mom. If we let you answer that jingling time bomb, it
means there's absolutely nothing about us we want to keep concealed
from you. "Men aren't big on sharing. So when a guy lets you grab the
phone - possibly making you privy to personal information you could use
to blackmail him for the rest of his life - it means he's planning on
staying with you for a very long time," says Rich, 29.