First things first: Stop acting like your ex was God’s gift to men/women. She wasn’t perfect. If we’re being honest, she probably wasn’t even close. Make a list of his/her annoying traits. Let your buddies bad-mouth her. Do whatever you have to do....just take him/her off that pedestal.
Step two for getting over your ex: get closure. If you’re going to break up with him/her, don’t put it off. Make sure you’re both on the same page. This is a breakup, not a “break.” The two of you are moving on, which means potentially seeing other people. If you feel the need to do a relationship postmortem, do it now. You won’t be seeing him/her again for a while.
Don't contact him/her
This may be the most important of our 11 tips for getting over your ex. After you’ve gotten closer, don’t contact him/her. Go cold turkey. Seriously. Maybe you said some crap about trying to stay friends, maybe you made some idiot vow to always be there for each other, but forget it. By staying in touch with old flames, you’re asking for months or years of on-again-off-again uncertainty. So, throw out him/her phone number, stop texting her and unfriend him/her on Facebook. Imagine how freaked out you'll be the first time you see some strange person in his/her profile picture, and you'll see why a clean break is essential.
Without a girlfriend gobbling up hours out of every day, you may be wondering what to do with yourself. Now that you’re single, we suggest hitting the gym or taking a jog. It’s a healthy way to work out all of that post-breakup frustration. Getting in shape is also a good way to boost your self-esteem. And don’t forget: The gym is a great place to new people.
Avoid her friends and the places she hangs
If you want to avoid the temptations that come with bumping into an ex, you might have to make some sacrifices. You might have to cut ties with some of your mutual friends. You might have to avoid some of your favorite haunts . Make the sacrifice for your peace of mind.